April 29, 2017:
And here we are, less than two weeks away from graduation. As excitement and anticipation overtake me, I can’t help but think about all that I’ve gone through to get where I am. Ironically enough, I didn’t have a concrete plan when I graduated from college in 2015. I was just happy that I’d made it through school as a biology major and could say I was graduating. Can you blame me? When we are kids were taught that this is what we’re supposed to do: graduate high school, go to college, become successful. My favorite part is where they tell you, you can be anything that you want to be. Which can remain true, but no one explains all the hardships and obstacles that are apart of attaining that dream. There’s so many things actually that no one truly explains to you as you transition from one stage of life to the next. For example, why doesn’t anyone prepare the preschool aged child for k – 12? I mean, a little heads up, that play time is up. From that point on, you will be doing school work and after that the work of life haunt’s you forever.
August 6, 2017:
It’s interesting to see that three months later I still can heavily identify with my earlier thoughts. I still feel an overwhelming amount of pressure to produce greatness and prove to myself that I can make my dreams become reality. I have a bit of advantage considering I have made some of the same choices as I previously did post graduation but this time I knew the devils it may come with along with the rewards. Lets get into it!
1. Post Graduation depression is REAL!
I can attest to this first hand! Especially graduating twice from two different undergraduate degree programs! Before you cross the stage there’s this gush of excitement, an idea that your on your way. Then after, reality hits you in the face. Despite how glad you may be to be done with going to class and 10 page papers, now it’s time to adult, like, for real. The good news, you can keep your ramen noodles!
2. Careers can be intimidating
Wether you graduate school with a job already lined up or you’re constantly updating your resume’s objective line to submit to a different organization daily, it can be scary! I remember my first interview for “my dream career” back in June. I was so nervous that I would actually get the job and not know what to do! I was scared because it was in a different state and I’d actually have to juggle paying rent without my parents help along with Sallie Mae knocking at the door soon. Talk about first world problems…
As if everyone asking you, ” What are you going to do now?” isn’t enough
3. The waiting time is a silent killer
The “in between” stage when you’re waiting to hear back from a school, job opportunity, or just figuring it all out literally feels like DEATH. You have way too much time on your hands and instead of reflecting on all the good things you’ve accomplished and overcome, one is usually contemplating all the troubles of the world. In some case, creating problems that don’t actually even exist! Snap out the sunken place, sis
Honestly, this list could go on and on, but it’s important to recognize that a lot of people face this tough reality. The hard fact is that when you graduate college, life will be very different no matter how together your life may be. Post graduation depression is real and can be a challenge to overcome, but don’t let it devour you! I have experienced it, twice. Both times I sought counsel from my family, therapist, and faith in Christ. I found most of my support in God, especially when I felt like the people around me just couldn’t relate to what I was going through. I’ve learned that through the many trials you may have post graduation, life will only bring more. And wether or not you’ve found the perfect opportunity or you start Monday, don’t fear the future rather find security in the Lord’s promise. In the meantime, get to know yourself, develop a heart of gratitude for all the things you’ve been fortunate to experience and share, and work on your dreams.
I’m currently in an ” in between” stage but know that this is just temporary. As excited as I was for graduation in May, I feared the feelings I once felt before after graduating especially moving back in with my parents. * inserts coins into piggybank* Instead, I’m grateful for the support I receive from my family during this time of transition and use it as encouragement to reach my short and long-term goals!
Share your post graduation depression stories down below and how you overcame in the comments! Until next time, peace and blessings!
” You can’t stop the waves but you can learn to surf” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Matthew 21: 22 If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.